While the sentiment of keeping “something” of your failed relationship alive may seem heartwarming and for the overall greater good, the truth is, making your new friendship a success may be more pain than it’s worth. While a large number of people have tried it at some point or another, you may as well come to terms with the fact that staying friends with your ex just shouldn’t be on the buffet table.
They’re your ex for a reason.
As healthy or cathartic as you think staying friends with your ex is, remember that you are no longer together for a reason. Breaking up, in some ways, can be similar to a death. Drunken Aunt Betty dies? Suddenly nobody wants to talk about what a hard-up slut she used to be. You and your ex move along? Suddenly those qualities that used to make you crazy, or hurt your feelings now don’t seem so bad.